I have dealt with conflict through out my years in the Early Childhood field with other teachers and I have always had to fight and stand my ground when it came to other professionals who wanted to bring me down and hurt me. A couple of years ago I was working at a daycare/preschool and the other teacher that I worked with was rude and mean to me every chance she got. She would talk bad about me to the parents and was not a team player. I was very tired of her attitude towards me and when I would confront her about it she would just walk away and tell me that she didn't care what I thought. So after about 8 months I decided to quit the job and go somewhere else. I would have stayed if the management team would have worked with me but I decided that if I wanted to be happy to go to work everyday I would have to make the change myself.
I have learned that there will always be people who think that they are better than you and that you are always wrong and that they are always right, but that is not true and I don't bother with those people anymore. If you let them upset you than you are giving them what they want and they win. If you ignore them and don't let them change you to what they want, then and only then will you win and they lose.
Emily, thank you for sharing your post with the class. I agree with you that there will be people in life that seem to just try to pull you down. It is better to surround yourself as much as possible with people that support you and encourage you. I feel you did the best thing in your situation. Sometimes we have to try to be the better person and show to other people how you are supposed to treat others even when you do not feel they deserve it. The experiences you have in life are to help others so that you can share your experiences with them. Thanks for sharing.
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ReplyDeleteI am sure we have all had issues with working with others who are not team players. I have also endured injustices at my former job. As I stated in my blog, I was harassed at my former job by a staff member. She is a child compared to me in age, education, and life experiences. She came to work each day pretending that she had my best interest at heart; it was obvious, that she was being fake. I am saddened that you had to leave a job you loved, because of an unprofessional co-worker. The problem with these situations is that most of the time administration does not get involved the way they should; if she was the one harassing you, then she should have been the one to leave. Most of the time, the good workers are forced to leave their employment because they become fed up with the injustices. Your strategy in trying to communicate with her face to face was great; however, when one is dealing with someone who is unprofessional or do not have common courtesy, he or she is fighting a losing battle. I am glad you got out of that uncomfortable environment; I did the same thing.
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Emily,
ReplyDeleteI completely understand your situation and your decision. I have been dealing with a very negative teacher for the last six months and it has been wearing on me considerably. I have a difficult time continuing to go to work with her. Sometimes we need to remove ourselves from the situation to help the conflict come to a resolution. It probably would have helped you to have a supportive management team but as we both know, that isn't the case a lot of times. I hope you are happy with your current employment and are able to use some of our tools we are learning through this class to communicate effectively with your new colleagues, families and children.
Emily, Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I am sorry that you had to endure this type of treatment in the workplace. Prior to going in the EC I was a retail store manager for Walmart and I would see this type of thing all the time. I would suggest though in the future that if you really love your job and love what you do don't let someone run you off. You must remember that in the end you are their because you enjoy what you are doing. I would suggest that you avoid this individual as much as possible and maybe have a meeting with them and the management team together to see if you can resolve the issues. Don't let negative people discourage you and push you away from your dreams and goals because they will be everywhere you go. Best wishes Deon
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